Where Do I Want To Be In 10 Years?

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Every January, people set an array of goals or make New Year’s Resolutions, because they are so resolute on how they are going to obtain that goal. By February, half have already fallen off the wagon of success. Very few ever achieve their New Year’s resolutions. What makes the few more successful than others; finding the answers means the difference between living another year with regret of what could have been of our lives, or living the greatness of what we could actually become. Knowledge and action are the difference between a great life, or a mediocre life. In January, “Cemeteries are frozen tundra’s of broken promises and unfulfilled dreams”. Don’t let your dreams die with you!

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This year I decided, I am going to live this year like no other. What if, every day I did five things to accomplish one of my goals; and five things to accomplish another. I know, you are thinking, who has the time for that right? But you do! Honestly! Because once you make your mind up to do something, usually no one will change it. It all comes down to time management and discipline. You have to decide here and now what is more important, living the life you have always lived, or living the life you deserve.

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Which is another part of the problem. Many times in our lives we are conditioned by three basic concepts:

1) Afraid of Failure

2) Feeling Unworthy/Undeserving

3) Fear of Rejection.

How we avoid things because of our fear of failure or being rejected; how we spend our money; how we let things go; and how we don’t set healthy boundaries, all comes from these three fears.

If we try, we may fail, so instead we don’t try or don’t follow things through, living a self-fulfilling prophecy.

We are afraid of rejection. We are afraid no one will love us and accept us if they knew all of our flaws, but everyone has flaws.

I started a non-profit company with little money. I had a passion and a vision in 2009 to host nationwide conferences, with local advocates, to build, FACSA Centers (FACSA stands for Family and Friends Fighting Against Child Sexual Assault) in every state, which will have everything from counseling services, doctor services, psychological services, housing, security, job training, all under one roof. When the families left at the end of the year, they will leave to a home they can rent to own, and have a dependable transportation. I mortgaged my home to help fund the Shattering The Silence Tour and Documentary Project, which was a 115 city tour across the U.S.A. and Canada.

Life sometimes, gets in the way of dreams, and I have been home the last two years caring for my aging elderly parents. While at home, I have been able to write a children’s book. I am now writing my autobiography, which will be complete in four months.

I am working from home and have kicked off three national campaigns this year.

  • Having No Statute of Limitations Nationwide. I am working on a collaborative effort to get ambassadors to petition and fight for the bill to go before their legislatures this year.
  • Having Free DNA Testing and Processing for All Children of Sexual Assault. I am using the same concept. It seems when you conspire to do so something, the universe opens doors for you. I have made connections of collaboration that are inspiring.
  • We are hosting a Global Pop Up Art Project at the University of Southern Florida, April 23, 2016. This is a global event to showcase prevention and education of child sexual assault and human trafficking where artist, survivors, showcase their art, music, dance, theatrics, poetry, etc. to and to create a paradigm shift to shatter the secrets of silence and shame, which surrounds it.

I decided this year, would be like how I want to live, not only the next 10 years of my life, but the rest of my life. I started January swinging for the fences.

In January, I began to finish my autobiography and plan to write other books to help fund, with grants and fund raisers, the FACSA Centers. I submitted part of my documentary work to a couple of Film Festivals, which I hope will get picked up. If so, it will help our cause in raising awareness and education, and also bring in much needed funds for my non-profit; and for myself.

In 10 years, I will have written films, books, created apps and games for our programs. All of this, will have been because of the three little words, “I Have Decided.”

 

I kicked off the National campaigns, and I work every day to make sure they are successful. Whether I make the April goal, or it takes me longer, as long as I get the bills implemented, no matter how long it takes, I know I have done my best; and that is all anyone can do.

Theodore Roosevelt said it best, when he said, ““It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
― Theodore Roosevelt

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Do You Feel Unworthy, Rejected, or A Failure? By Connie Lee

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Most of us were not taught to be successful. I wasn’t taught to have faith in God, let alone, believe in myself.  I had to find that road on my own. I had to create a mental picture of the person I wanted to become, and take steps each day to become her. I closed my eyes, thought of where I would like to be in life, what I would have liked to achieved, where I would like to live, my professional office, my degrees, how I looked, my ideal weight, and even what I smelled like. With this visual image in mind, I stepped into her body. I wanted to resist because I was not having to struggle and fight, everything seemed to flow flawlessly. I made myself stay there until I was comfortable with the new me. It seemed a lot better than going back to where I was.

You deserve a better life. People may have used you, lied to you, abused you, and betrayed you, and made you think you do not deserve better, but you do; and deep down, you know it. We all have insecurities and limiting beliefs. How we let things go, how we do not set healthy boundaries, how we spend our money, how we are afraid to fail, and we are afraid of rejection, all stems from three beliefs we have of ourselves.

  • We are afraid of failure. If we try, we may fail, so you don’t try to follow things through, living a self-fulfilling prophecy.
  • We are afraid of rejection. No one will want me or accept me if they truly knew who I am. The right people who are meant to be in your life, will love you and accept you the way you are. “Do not let the opinions of others, define who you are”! Connie Lee
  • We feel unworthy. People in your life may have continually put you down to make themselves feel better, which is a psychological term called, “Leveling”.. That has nothing to do with you, and says everything about who they are. Be proud of who you are. You are loved, accepted, and you are very worthy! You may lose a few friends, but you have to surround yourself with people who are on the same mission as you are, or like minded people.

I want to remind you that is okay to believe in your dreams, even when everyone else tells you have an impossible dream. Never let others, who have never achieved their dreams, keep you from obtaining yours. You know what you are capable of and your abilities. Skills and networks will happen along the journey. You just have to put one step in front of the other, and keep moving forward. Yes, you will fail! You learn from your mistakes and find a better way of accomplishing the task that lay before you. Have an impossible goal? Make a mind map. Put yourself in the center and your goal on the outside. Lay out each step it will take to get there and how you can make that happen. Find a mentor you can learn the skills you need to. YouTube has plenty of tutorials for you. If you seek a mentor in person or online, be prepared to ask relevant questions, so as to not waste their time. You both will gain more value from the encounter. Nothing is IMPOSSIBLE, which says, “I’M Possible”. It is only your limited perspectives, beliefs, and values that put limits on what you could achieve. Whoever made you believe you are not good enough, you don’t deserve peace in your life, you will always be rejected, and you are unlovable, was only projecting their fears and insecurities onto you. Shake it off!! Look yourself in the mirror every day, and tell yourself, “I Love You”, “I am magnificent and worthy to receive all good things in my life”. “I will take 5 actions every day to make that happen, and log them,” “I am supported and respected”. I will even go one step further and tell you to stand their naked, in all of your beautiful glory, flaws and all, and tell yourself, “I love even the hard to love flaws about yourself.” It is time to truly learn to love the valuable person you are. Stop giving others so much power to dictate your life, and tell you what image you should hold before they deem you acceptable to society. Stand up and take your power back!! Soon, your mind will begin to attract all of things you have written down. Don’t sabotage it because it is out of your comfort zone. Embrace your new you and your new life, because you deserve so much more. You can do it. I believe in you. Now, get going, what are you sitting there for?

 

 

 

The truth is that nothing you do defines you as a person. You, that small part of the universal energetic flux, are enough, just the way you are. In fact, you are fundamental to the proper functioning of that massive cosmos as a whole. So don’t sweat it when things don’t work out the way you thought they would.

 

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Don’t Let Your Future Be Determined By A Flip Of A Coin By Connie Lee

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I look at where I am today, and where I used to be, I know each and every decision, whether great or small, has brought me to this point. Our choices and our decisions, will ultimately determine who we are and where our future will take us. While I still have many things I would like to accomplish, as well as many great adventures ahead,  I would like to share with you what has worked for me, using the five step method every day.

To achieve your goals each day, write down what you would like to accomplish most, and make it a priority to do five things, at the beginning of the day, to make this happen. Your email box, Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, and Instagram are time stealers, so make sure you do what makes money and helps you achieve your dreams first.

Earl Nightingale has a 30 Day Challenge to Success:

  1. Write your goals, identifying which is most important, and focus on that thought. Your thoughts are what you become.
  2. Cut away any fetters from your mind. Your limits are self-imposed. Nothing is impossible for the very word impossible says, “I’m Possible”.
  3. Think positively and be tenacious. Have the courage to find solutions each day to help you achieve your goal; step by step, day by day, until you are further than where you have started, and have become more than you used to be. (Never let people who have not achieved their dreams, tell you cannot achieve yours”. Connie Lee)
  4. Pay yourself 10 percent first. You will always have bills. Try cutting back on the nail salon, coffees, extra things you don’t need, to save money. You can also sell old items around the house, or frequent garage sales, to sell on EBAY, or elsewhere.
  5. I am going to add here. Make a vision board. Your thoughts are very powerful and your mind has a way of pulling you to the goals you desire. Make it a screen saver and look at it every day. Make clear steps to achieve success and act upon them.
  6. Another addition: Meditate at least 15 minutes daily. Take a few moments in a quiet place, clear your mind from chatter, and listen. Your answers will come. This will also lower your blood pressure, and help you react more calmly to the world around you, when you continue to think with clarity and make concise decisions.

Norman Vincent Peale, on “The Power Of Positive Thinking”  has 6 Rules to follow:

  1. Create a mental picture of what you want to accomplish and hold on to this picture tenaciously. Your mind tries to attract what it pictures. (Qi-Gong and Eastern medicine is a powerful demonstration of this.) You will have to cancel out negative thoughts with positive thoughts, because those were your old limiting beliefs.
  2. Don’t build up obstacles in your mind; minimize them instead. Never inflate problems with fearful thoughts.
  3. Don’t be awestruck by others and try to copy them. Be yourself. I will add, it is great to have a mentor, but like reading a good book, you have to take what great ideas work for you and leave the rest. Everyone has insecurities
  4. Get a mentor who can help you with your insecure feelings, and who is aligned with what you want to learn.
  5. Follow 10 positive affirmations each day. When you continually think positive, your life will not have room for the negative.
  6. Put yourself in God’s hands. You have His power, His spirit, and His love in you. He wants you to succeed and have a better life. He has been by your side through all you have been through. You may ask why He did not send someone to help, but you may not realize He is, because He is sending you, so others will not have to feel the same pain. Follow you’re calling and fulfill your mission, for our time here is limited. The people in our lives are only lent to us for a little while. Don’t take your time with them for granted. Love while you can; apologize where you need to; support others, and lead by example, not mere words. Earl Nightingale says, “Your rewards in life are in exact proportion to the work you put in.

 

We all want something and we are all afraid of something. Look at the abundance around you, you all deserve it. “Never let your fears override your dreams”. Connie Lee  Don’t think of “How”, for the answers will come to you. Continue to take 5 action steps toward your goal, each day, and you will get there.

What kind of life do you want for yourself in five years? Most decisions are made in a split second, with a flip of a coin. Choose wisely my friend, for your future is depending on you to make the right decision.

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