Where Do I Want To Be In 10 Years?

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Every January, people set an array of goals or make New Year’s Resolutions, because they are so resolute on how they are going to obtain that goal. By February, half have already fallen off the wagon of success. Very few ever achieve their New Year’s resolutions. What makes the few more successful than others; finding the answers means the difference between living another year with regret of what could have been of our lives, or living the greatness of what we could actually become. Knowledge and action are the difference between a great life, or a mediocre life. In January, “Cemeteries are frozen tundra’s of broken promises and unfulfilled dreams”. Don’t let your dreams die with you!

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This year I decided, I am going to live this year like no other. What if, every day I did five things to accomplish one of my goals; and five things to accomplish another. I know, you are thinking, who has the time for that right? But you do! Honestly! Because once you make your mind up to do something, usually no one will change it. It all comes down to time management and discipline. You have to decide here and now what is more important, living the life you have always lived, or living the life you deserve.

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Which is another part of the problem. Many times in our lives we are conditioned by three basic concepts:

1) Afraid of Failure

2) Feeling Unworthy/Undeserving

3) Fear of Rejection.

How we avoid things because of our fear of failure or being rejected; how we spend our money; how we let things go; and how we don’t set healthy boundaries, all comes from these three fears.

If we try, we may fail, so instead we don’t try or don’t follow things through, living a self-fulfilling prophecy.

We are afraid of rejection. We are afraid no one will love us and accept us if they knew all of our flaws, but everyone has flaws.

I started a non-profit company with little money. I had a passion and a vision in 2009 to host nationwide conferences, with local advocates, to build, FACSA Centers (FACSA stands for Family and Friends Fighting Against Child Sexual Assault) in every state, which will have everything from counseling services, doctor services, psychological services, housing, security, job training, all under one roof. When the families left at the end of the year, they will leave to a home they can rent to own, and have a dependable transportation. I mortgaged my home to help fund the Shattering The Silence Tour and Documentary Project, which was a 115 city tour across the U.S.A. and Canada.

Life sometimes, gets in the way of dreams, and I have been home the last two years caring for my aging elderly parents. While at home, I have been able to write a children’s book. I am now writing my autobiography, which will be complete in four months.

I am working from home and have kicked off three national campaigns this year.

  • Having No Statute of Limitations Nationwide. I am working on a collaborative effort to get ambassadors to petition and fight for the bill to go before their legislatures this year.
  • Having Free DNA Testing and Processing for All Children of Sexual Assault. I am using the same concept. It seems when you conspire to do so something, the universe opens doors for you. I have made connections of collaboration that are inspiring.
  • We are hosting a Global Pop Up Art Project at the University of Southern Florida, April 23, 2016. This is a global event to showcase prevention and education of child sexual assault and human trafficking where artist, survivors, showcase their art, music, dance, theatrics, poetry, etc. to and to create a paradigm shift to shatter the secrets of silence and shame, which surrounds it.

I decided this year, would be like how I want to live, not only the next 10 years of my life, but the rest of my life. I started January swinging for the fences.

In January, I began to finish my autobiography and plan to write other books to help fund, with grants and fund raisers, the FACSA Centers. I submitted part of my documentary work to a couple of Film Festivals, which I hope will get picked up. If so, it will help our cause in raising awareness and education, and also bring in much needed funds for my non-profit; and for myself.

In 10 years, I will have written films, books, created apps and games for our programs. All of this, will have been because of the three little words, “I Have Decided.”

 

I kicked off the National campaigns, and I work every day to make sure they are successful. Whether I make the April goal, or it takes me longer, as long as I get the bills implemented, no matter how long it takes, I know I have done my best; and that is all anyone can do.

Theodore Roosevelt said it best, when he said, ““It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
― Theodore Roosevelt

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Shattering The Silence Tour and Documentary Project

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 I have been across the country and Canada, teaching communities, through free conferences, about the warning signs, solutions, and who to call if they suspect child abuse and human trafficking. Prevention and education are vital to our communities who would prefer to believe this does not happen in our community, and especially in our home; when we clearly know it does. Educating the parents, grandparents, and community is key. I am trained in Good Touch Bad Touch but feel like you do, that the burden should not be on the child. What this does is create awareness with them, where they have been taught in their home, that the sexual abuse is “normal” or a “game”, when it is not. We teach them to tell until someone listens, especially since most abuse happens from someone of close proximity. Adults from across the nation, rather they are young or old, still have two haunting questions, despite the trauma they endure, and they are, “Why did someone not believe me and protect me” and “Why did someone not stand up for me and say something’?
Until, we can break this multi-generational cycle of abuse, we will forever be failing our children, and selling out their future peace and happiness. It saddens me that while we work our hearts out to teach and to serve, we are still living in a culture which subjugates and sells women and children, while good people sit by in indifference and do nothing through the silence.