Legacy of Poverty and How To Change Your stinking Thinking

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                         Legacy of Poverty and How

                   To Change Your Stinking Thinking

 

While I was an undergrad at South Arkansas University, in Magnolia, AR., I conducted my psychological research on, “Why We Fall In Love With Who Do”. In the yearlong research, I found that our beliefs about our relationships and why we choose to fall for some and not others, is learned from our parents interacted with one another, which became the blue print of what we expect from a relationship. Our spending habits, also learned from our parents, is more about the beliefs and behaviors of spending habits of how they utilized the resources they have. If your parents lived paycheck to paycheck, in most cases, so would their children. Regardless of wealth or poverty, our beliefs about how we save for a rainy day, or cash runs through our hands like sand from the beach, is a learned behavior; which you can unlearn, if you are smart enough and brave enough to step out of your comfort zone. Unless, the parents decided they wanted a better life for their children, and decided to break the generational cycle, by learning new financial skills to pass down to their lineage, the next generation would likely pass along the same spending habits they learned from their parents.

 

If the parents, paid bills and bought groceries first, then bought what the kids needed, as many families do, they will find themselves never having enough month, at the end of the money. If, by chance they learn new skills, like cutting back on buying things you don’t need, you can’t afford, or frivolous things that end up in a drawer or the bottom of a toy box, and usually break, it will be hard to get ahead.

 

Robert Kiyosaki, says to pay yourself 10% first. This sounds lubricous to people who cannot afford to waste a dollar, but the reasoning behind it is very simple. If you start a savings account with the 10% saved, when something breaks, or there is a job loss, or some other catastrophe, as life gives us many times, you will have money set aside to counteract these costs, or the majority of them, and you will not have to take out a loan, nor put it on credit, where you have to pay for it two to three times over; nor will you have to borrow from a Payday Loan service. You do not see Payday Loan services in wealthy neighborhoods, waiting like vulchers for your bad luck.

 

Most of our spending is over spending at the grocery store. My suggestion is to cut back on junk and buying prepackaged items. Cook dinners in a crockpot or make leftovers your family can eat on during the week. Make up small healthy packages of fruit, vegetables, and healthy snacks, that are readily accessible; that is usually what people grab from the kitchen, something quick and simple.

 

If you see something you just can’t live without, sell something from around the house you have not used in a while, and you no longer want (don’t sell other families things without their permission :).  You can have a garage sale, pick up extra work, or turn your hobby and the things you create into a part time business.  David Drews, from Renegade University and Financial Independence has a list of ways to make extra money. You can find his suggestions at http://www.mastermind-university.com/quick-cash-ideas_ways-to-make-money.php

Some other financial tips are at http://www.pinterest.com/conniesmiles/money-thoughts/

 

How we let things go, how we do not set healthy boundaries, how we spend our money, how we are afraid to fail, and we are afraid of rejection, all stems from three beliefs we have of ourselves.

  • We are afraid of failure. If we try, we may fail, so you don’t try to follow things through, living a self-fulfilling prophecy.
  • We are afraid of rejection. No one will want me or accept me if they truly knew who I am. The right people who are meant to be in your life, will love you and accept you the way you are. “Do not let the opinions of others, define who you are”! Connie Lee
  • We feel unworthy. People in your life may have continually put you down to make themselves feel better, which is a psychological term called, “Leveling”.. That has nothing to do with you, and says everything about who they are. Be proud of who you are. You are loved, accepted, and you are very worthy! You may lose a few friends, but you have to surround yourself with people who are on the same mission as you are, or like-minded people.

 

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Now, that you have insight on how to save money and change your limiting beliefs, I know you can live a more abundant life. “Every needless expenditure we make, takes away from our dreams”. Connie Lee. Good luck and I wish you much success.

 

Connie Lee

B.S. in Psychology

Conniesmiles51@gmail.com

 

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Do You Feel Unworthy, Rejected, or A Failure? By Connie Lee

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Most of us were not taught to be successful. I wasn’t taught to have faith in God, let alone, believe in myself.  I had to find that road on my own. I had to create a mental picture of the person I wanted to become, and take steps each day to become her. I closed my eyes, thought of where I would like to be in life, what I would have liked to achieved, where I would like to live, my professional office, my degrees, how I looked, my ideal weight, and even what I smelled like. With this visual image in mind, I stepped into her body. I wanted to resist because I was not having to struggle and fight, everything seemed to flow flawlessly. I made myself stay there until I was comfortable with the new me. It seemed a lot better than going back to where I was.

You deserve a better life. People may have used you, lied to you, abused you, and betrayed you, and made you think you do not deserve better, but you do; and deep down, you know it. We all have insecurities and limiting beliefs. How we let things go, how we do not set healthy boundaries, how we spend our money, how we are afraid to fail, and we are afraid of rejection, all stems from three beliefs we have of ourselves.

  • We are afraid of failure. If we try, we may fail, so you don’t try to follow things through, living a self-fulfilling prophecy.
  • We are afraid of rejection. No one will want me or accept me if they truly knew who I am. The right people who are meant to be in your life, will love you and accept you the way you are. “Do not let the opinions of others, define who you are”! Connie Lee
  • We feel unworthy. People in your life may have continually put you down to make themselves feel better, which is a psychological term called, “Leveling”.. That has nothing to do with you, and says everything about who they are. Be proud of who you are. You are loved, accepted, and you are very worthy! You may lose a few friends, but you have to surround yourself with people who are on the same mission as you are, or like minded people.

I want to remind you that is okay to believe in your dreams, even when everyone else tells you have an impossible dream. Never let others, who have never achieved their dreams, keep you from obtaining yours. You know what you are capable of and your abilities. Skills and networks will happen along the journey. You just have to put one step in front of the other, and keep moving forward. Yes, you will fail! You learn from your mistakes and find a better way of accomplishing the task that lay before you. Have an impossible goal? Make a mind map. Put yourself in the center and your goal on the outside. Lay out each step it will take to get there and how you can make that happen. Find a mentor you can learn the skills you need to. YouTube has plenty of tutorials for you. If you seek a mentor in person or online, be prepared to ask relevant questions, so as to not waste their time. You both will gain more value from the encounter. Nothing is IMPOSSIBLE, which says, “I’M Possible”. It is only your limited perspectives, beliefs, and values that put limits on what you could achieve. Whoever made you believe you are not good enough, you don’t deserve peace in your life, you will always be rejected, and you are unlovable, was only projecting their fears and insecurities onto you. Shake it off!! Look yourself in the mirror every day, and tell yourself, “I Love You”, “I am magnificent and worthy to receive all good things in my life”. “I will take 5 actions every day to make that happen, and log them,” “I am supported and respected”. I will even go one step further and tell you to stand their naked, in all of your beautiful glory, flaws and all, and tell yourself, “I love even the hard to love flaws about yourself.” It is time to truly learn to love the valuable person you are. Stop giving others so much power to dictate your life, and tell you what image you should hold before they deem you acceptable to society. Stand up and take your power back!! Soon, your mind will begin to attract all of things you have written down. Don’t sabotage it because it is out of your comfort zone. Embrace your new you and your new life, because you deserve so much more. You can do it. I believe in you. Now, get going, what are you sitting there for?

 

 

 

The truth is that nothing you do defines you as a person. You, that small part of the universal energetic flux, are enough, just the way you are. In fact, you are fundamental to the proper functioning of that massive cosmos as a whole. So don’t sweat it when things don’t work out the way you thought they would.

 

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Don’t Let Your Future Be Determined By A Flip Of A Coin By Connie Lee

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I look at where I am today, and where I used to be, I know each and every decision, whether great or small, has brought me to this point. Our choices and our decisions, will ultimately determine who we are and where our future will take us. While I still have many things I would like to accomplish, as well as many great adventures ahead,  I would like to share with you what has worked for me, using the five step method every day.

To achieve your goals each day, write down what you would like to accomplish most, and make it a priority to do five things, at the beginning of the day, to make this happen. Your email box, Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, and Instagram are time stealers, so make sure you do what makes money and helps you achieve your dreams first.

Earl Nightingale has a 30 Day Challenge to Success:

  1. Write your goals, identifying which is most important, and focus on that thought. Your thoughts are what you become.
  2. Cut away any fetters from your mind. Your limits are self-imposed. Nothing is impossible for the very word impossible says, “I’m Possible”.
  3. Think positively and be tenacious. Have the courage to find solutions each day to help you achieve your goal; step by step, day by day, until you are further than where you have started, and have become more than you used to be. (Never let people who have not achieved their dreams, tell you cannot achieve yours”. Connie Lee)
  4. Pay yourself 10 percent first. You will always have bills. Try cutting back on the nail salon, coffees, extra things you don’t need, to save money. You can also sell old items around the house, or frequent garage sales, to sell on EBAY, or elsewhere.
  5. I am going to add here. Make a vision board. Your thoughts are very powerful and your mind has a way of pulling you to the goals you desire. Make it a screen saver and look at it every day. Make clear steps to achieve success and act upon them.
  6. Another addition: Meditate at least 15 minutes daily. Take a few moments in a quiet place, clear your mind from chatter, and listen. Your answers will come. This will also lower your blood pressure, and help you react more calmly to the world around you, when you continue to think with clarity and make concise decisions.

Norman Vincent Peale, on “The Power Of Positive Thinking”  has 6 Rules to follow:

  1. Create a mental picture of what you want to accomplish and hold on to this picture tenaciously. Your mind tries to attract what it pictures. (Qi-Gong and Eastern medicine is a powerful demonstration of this.) You will have to cancel out negative thoughts with positive thoughts, because those were your old limiting beliefs.
  2. Don’t build up obstacles in your mind; minimize them instead. Never inflate problems with fearful thoughts.
  3. Don’t be awestruck by others and try to copy them. Be yourself. I will add, it is great to have a mentor, but like reading a good book, you have to take what great ideas work for you and leave the rest. Everyone has insecurities
  4. Get a mentor who can help you with your insecure feelings, and who is aligned with what you want to learn.
  5. Follow 10 positive affirmations each day. When you continually think positive, your life will not have room for the negative.
  6. Put yourself in God’s hands. You have His power, His spirit, and His love in you. He wants you to succeed and have a better life. He has been by your side through all you have been through. You may ask why He did not send someone to help, but you may not realize He is, because He is sending you, so others will not have to feel the same pain. Follow you’re calling and fulfill your mission, for our time here is limited. The people in our lives are only lent to us for a little while. Don’t take your time with them for granted. Love while you can; apologize where you need to; support others, and lead by example, not mere words. Earl Nightingale says, “Your rewards in life are in exact proportion to the work you put in.

 

We all want something and we are all afraid of something. Look at the abundance around you, you all deserve it. “Never let your fears override your dreams”. Connie Lee  Don’t think of “How”, for the answers will come to you. Continue to take 5 action steps toward your goal, each day, and you will get there.

What kind of life do you want for yourself in five years? Most decisions are made in a split second, with a flip of a coin. Choose wisely my friend, for your future is depending on you to make the right decision.

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